There’s this part of me that’s always hesitant to write about topics such as FGM – in some way, it just seems incredibly clichéd. However, it’s come up a lot recently – in my conversations, in day-to-day experiences, and even in the news. In fact, the BBC has given it quite a bit of press recently – discussing a new ban on the practice in Egypt and heightened prosecution of the practice in the UK.
Just to give a broader context, in Somalia, about 98% of women have been circumcised. The main aim of the process is to ensure that a woman remains faithful to her future husband (“Who will marry her otherwise?”) and it is also often discussed as a religious duty and a hygienic practice.
Female circumcision can take three different forms:
- Clitoridectomy (or “sunna” circumsicion) – part or all of the clitoris is amputated
- Excision – the clitoris and the labia minora are removed
- Infibulation – after excision, the labia majora are cut or scraped away to create raw surfaces, which are held in contact until they heal, either by stitching the edges of the wound or by typing the legs together. A small opening is left for the passage of urine and menstrual flow. (For further information see links…)
Around here, the third practice of infibulation is most common. And one small detail that I somehow just fully realized is that after marriage – meaning the night of the wedding or at most, the day after – women who have been infibulated must either be forcibly penetrated or un-stitched then penetrated the next day.
I have always been extremely wary of outsiders trying to change local practices – but in conversations about this topic, FGM has always been the one area where I think there is no debate. However, this post has nothing to do with understanding a local culture, assessing international intervention, evaluating the rights of an individual – it’s about me, as a woman, being physically nauseated by a practice that has no silver lining. You can talk about ways to make circumcision medically safe, you can talk about the fact that we have practices in the west that could also be considered barbaric, you can talk about the ways the “developed” world similarly tries to deprive women of their own sexuality – but here, for me, there seems to be very little room for discussion or for acceptance.
I also want to note that women cannot simply be seen as the victims in this situation. Of course, men must be held accountable for their role in societal norms, but it is mothers that pass on this tradition to their daughters, females that accept it as a duty and women that promote it as a rite of passage. Every woman that I’ve discussed this with has acknowledged that it’s simply not discussed between the genders and husbands have minimal involvement in the procedure – or the decision on when it should occur.
When I first started this post – probably a few weeks ago at this point! – it was really meant as a rather unconstructive rant to air some of my own frustrations. As one quasi-constructive addition, I do think it’s time for FGM activists to acknowledge that this is one issue where exposure to “other ways” may be irrelevant. After all, the practice continues in Denmark in much the same way as it exists in Mogadishu.
Instead, it is time for some serious engagement with Islamic leaders to begin. In fact, I would argue that they are the only ones with any influence in the matter. So much of this practice is based on the misconception that it is a religious duty – when in fact, it is not mandated by the Qur’an and at most it simply falls under the “permissible” category of Sharia law. Clearly there is a much larger and much more in-depth discussion to be had on separation of culture and religion in places where it is so deeply intertwined, but for the time being, this is one topic where the conversation needs to be put on fast forward.